My Imperfectly Perfect Life

I have to tell ya…Hitting the “New Post” button on my blog felt SO weird and comforting at the same time. I’ve really missed opening my computer and sharing my love of health, with a little glimpse of my crazy beautiful life, and my overly dramatic personality…

It’s been too long my friends. Way too long.

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Someone close to me recently told me that I portray myself having this perfect life in my posts/FB statuses/Instagram, but in reality my life isn’t so. Like I’ve been fake…It was a little bit of an “ouch…really?” I feel like I’ve tried to be as real as I can on social media and my blog post. I think I have done my best to share the good most definitely, but I also feel that I’ve been open with sharing some of the bad and the ugly. (We are entitled to some privacy right?) 🙂

I know that social media can be a place where we don’t always show the reality of life, but I’ve always looked at this blog and my social media outlets as a place of positivity.  A place of comfort, strength, passion, common ground for others, and definitely a place of reality.

So that had me thinking, and since then I’ve been eager to share a little bit of reality of my well…Imperfectly Perfect life.

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It’s been about a month since I’ve been present here on The Diva Dish, and before that I was touch and go. Truth is my friends, we all have touch days/months/years. Times where it’s like, “Ok, can I really take much more?!” Times where we think everything is falling apart and there is NO way we can pick ourselves.

This has been one of those years.

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There has been a lot of loved ones lost this year, a lot of financial difficulties, relationships have been tried and tested between family members, friends, and my marriage. I’ve felt alone, lost, and even like a terrible mother and wife. I’ve seen loved ones struggle more than ever before, and I’ve been hurt by people who I respected and loved.

BUT…

There is always a but!

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I’ve also been blessed so much. I was able to get pregnant and continue to stay at home and raise my two baby girls. I’ve had many opportunities to see prayers answered by my loving Heavenly Father when I most needed them. I’ve learned the true value of friendship, and have seen many serve and sacrifice to help myself and my family out in many ways. I’ve learned that there is nothing better than a phone call of comfort from my mom or dad. And I have never felt closer to God than I do now…

I’ve become a lot stronger and so much more confident in myself than ever before, something which I’ve struggled with for a while. I know that I can do hard things, and I am doing the best I can to be a great mother, wife, friend, and woman.

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Why am I sharing this?

Not just to say that my life isn’t perfect, because I know that I’ve expressed that before.

What I really wanted to share was that life can be extremely difficult. We all go through things unimaginable, and no trial compares. It’s easy to get wrapped up in other peoples lives, thinking that their grass is greener (or their house is cleaner!)

But even in times of darkness, there is light. I’ve learned this so much this year. Even if it’s just a smile and an “I wove you!” from my two year old, or an “I’m so happy mom!” from my 4 year old. There IS light. Some days there will be more than others…But I know that we are strong, we are loved, and that no one is living a fairy tale.

More of like a broadway show, ya know :)!

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There will be multiple days of messy houses, laundry piles for DAYS, tantrums, toys on the floor, (and even some food!) And there will be nights where we order a pizza and eat three slices with ranch dressing and not feel bad about it..(And then have a bowl of rice krispies later that night!)

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And then there will be times where our world is turned upside down. Times where we fall and we don’t really want to get up, and we need help.

It’s so important to love others because we really don’t know what burdens others are carrying. Look for opportunities to serve and love others…

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And look for times where there is a little (or a lot) of light…

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I love you my friends and I’m grateful you have stuck with me this far during this year. I love this blog and I love all those who have supported me! Please know that despite the challenges this year has brought, we are doing GOOD! We are so blessed in more ways than we can count!

I’m so happy it’s the Holiday season! I can’t wait to eat more pumpkin and have hot chocolate by a sparkly christmas tree! With a large pile of laundry next to me of coarse :)!

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Comments

  1. Such a refreshingly honest and open post 🙂 I’ve also had a really tough year with a big move across the world and newfound anxieties as I’m trying to become an adult post college. It’s not always easy to focus on the good, but it helps so much if you can. We really do have so much to be thankful for 🙂

    • Thank you so much Lauren for your supportive words! I can imagine how scary this new change can be for you, but so exciting as well! Being an adult is when all the fun begins ;)! Good luck! And thanks for your kind words! xoxo

  2. Hi Ari, I’ve been wondering where you are! Glad to hear from you and I think that this is your blog and you get to do what you want with it. Even if it seems like a fantasy to others (and a good one for me to have inspiration) even if you look at it and it seems like a fantasy to you sometimes that’s ok because as moms, as parents we need all the psychological help we can give ourselves. I’ve thought about starting a blog as a creative outlet to the stress and frustration I often feel with being a mom. Jesh it’s hard, and we can be so hard on ourselves so poo poo to your neysayer, to anyone who wants to cloud your wonderful mothering with negativity. I hope you are well 🙂

    • Thanks Jenn! I definitely think blogs get a bad wrap for being too “perfect”, but you are so right, I think it’s nice and gives us a little help sometimes and motivates us in lots of ways! And you should definitely start a blog, I would love to read it! xoxoxo

  3. Hi Ari …it was so nice to read your blog this afternoon. You were missed. You have a beautiful family and I love the stories that you write and please don’t let any one with their negative comments change you in any way. You are beautiful inside and out and that comes through when you write about your family. There are always people who feel the need to share their negativity but don’t let it bother you because nothing they say matters. God, family and friends are what matters…and you are rich in that. Anyone who has children knows how much work is involved and that life is never perfect. You are special and remember that…

    • Oh thank you Denise, this was such a nice comment to read. It seriously made me feel so much better! Thank you for being so kind and understanding! xoxo

  4. Welcome Back! We missed you!

  5. Rachel McEwen says:

    Love this post! I for one never felt that you didn’t portray “real life”. That is why I love your blog because it does seem real and laughable during those hard days of raising kids…..I know I’ve been there. Anyway, love your blog. I just moved from Vegas where I lived for 13 years to Boise Idaho and am struggling with loneliness. So yes, we all have our struggles but in the end it’s what we make of them and how we learn and grow from them is what truly counts. Happy Holidays!!

    • Oh thank you Rachel for your kind comments! I hope you feel more comfortable here soon in Boise Idaho! I lived in Idaho for a few years and I loved the snow :), hope you enjoy it! AND I just moved to Las Vegas last year, what part were you living in?

  6. So happy that you are back! 🙂

  7. Hi girl, thanks for being real. (and seriously, thanks for posting pics of your house at it’s finest messiness…I have felt like such a terrible mom for not keeping my place clean, and you should see my kitchen most days. You are not alone. I am not alone. We can be messy together some days! Ok, most days) But seriously, it’s not easy to be real, or to blog a lot when you’ve got a ton going on and emotional stress (AND physical stress!) Go easy on yourself, mama. LIke you said, God is there for you, protecting you and your family (obvious from how He kept your husband alive in that wreck of a car!) and giving SO much grace when you need it the most. Love and prayers, Ashleigh

    • Thank you so much Ashleigh for this sweet comment, it made my morning! We do have to be there for each other, and be messy together! I love that! Thanks so much again! xoxo

  8. Hey Ari,
    I follow a few blogs and I never felt that way about yours. Some times when I read other blogs I get down in the dumps because everything always looks so perfect about their lives. But your blog is refreshing to read because it’s real! You know what they say haters gonna hate 😉 but I think you do a great job at keepin’ it real ;-). -Britt

  9. Ari,
    Your life sounds just like mine. You have always been honest with us and so normal and down to earth. God is great and works and mysterious ways. You keep on taking care of you and your sweet family.

  10. I am so sorry to hear you’ve gotten to the point where you feel like you need to explain yourself or clarify that life isn’t perfect. This post is very well written and I hope whoever told you that you aren’t portraying your life accurately online has read this. Every single one of us who uses any form of social media portrays their life in at least slightly different light than reality all the time, most of the time probably unintentionally. It’s just the nature of the beast. It’s so encouraging to hear you speak of your relationship with God being better than ever. I honestly can’t say I’ve had a rough year like you say you have, but I have had a lot of big changes for sure. I too feel closer to God than ever. It’s an amazing feeling to know he’s on your side and can/will get you through ANYTHING. Prayers are with you and your family. Happy holidays!!!!

    • I totally agree with your Brittany! It’s usually unintentionally, because don’t we all love to share the good parts of our life :).
      And I’m so happy that you are building your relationship with God as well, that’s always such a beautiful and powerful thing! We can get through ANYTHING, that’s right!
      Happy Holidays to you and thanks for being such a great support and friend! xoxo

  11. Rachel McEwen says:

    I do love the snow:) And all the seasons for that matter. I think I was a little too obsessed with Fall and the colors since I haven’t seen a fall for so many years…Ha! My husband was born and raised in Vegas. He grew up in Summerlin area. We lived in SW Vegas for a little bit but for the majority of the time we lived in Henderson. What area do you live in? And the bigger question is ….do you like LV?

    • No way! We actually live in the summerlin area, and yes we do like it :)! Everyone here is super nice and I love being able to live in a house and not an apartment like San Diego :). But I do miss the activities that SD had, sometimes LV is a little boring lol! (For a mom haha!)

      Enjoy Idaho, I would love to play in some snow right now!

  12. I’ve been following your blog for almost 3 years now & you’re still my favorite! You can’t help the fact that you & your girls are so intrinsically beautiful! I love that you keep it real but you also try to capture the beauty & ease when its there & that’s OK. We ALL try to do that. You have a warmth & light to you that makes me want to be your friend, even tho i’ve never met you! I too struggle with ups & downs since being a stay-at-home mom. Its HARD work, girl! And then throw other life tragedies in the mix & it can just be too much. Its lonely at times. In any case, your blog is always a highlight to my day! I’m making your almond sesame tofu tonight in honor of YOU! Xo

    • Oh Angela, can we meet and have lunch and bring our crazy beautiful children?? 🙂 Thank you so much for that comment, it seriously made me feel soooo much better!! I appreciate you being a long time reader and supporter, I definitely consider you a friend!
      Thanks again and hug your babies for me!

  13. Such a beautiful, raw post, Ari! Thank you for sharing so openly. You look so adorable with your baby bump. So happy for you and your growing family. Praise God for his faithfulness. Be gentle on yourself!

  14. Denisse Cristina says:

    I am so glad I found your blog!! Your recipes are bomb and I literally want to make everything lol! Congratulations on the new baby on the way and never stop posting because you inspire many people and we all love your blog!!
    xoxo

  15. It’s silly and weird that someone would say that to you. Most people post the good because that’s what you want to remember. We all have difficult times, but why would we want to dwell on them? I’m glad you are doing well and thanks for the post! Also, my friend started a blog that I feel like you would really like. She has two young girls, as well, and she made a “Blank Space” Taylor Swift parody video the other day about being a mom — it’s hilarious.

    http://basicmomblog.com/
    http://basicmomblog.com/blank-space-parody/

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